The origin of losers

I came up with idea that one day I may write a book titled: the Origin of Losers.

Most of the modern self-help books err in their assumption that everyone is a pure slate and ready for the magic strokes of the life advice to paint beautiful pictures on it. But our life is not a pure slate. It is already tainted, formed or malformed. The assumption that one can always start from the state of zero and live a happy life after faithfully follow the guru’s words is deceiving.

Few books have dealt with the question: what if I have already fucked up? In hindsight, I know I should have read the book earlier and follow your golden advice, but I didn’t and I failed. Now what? If everyone know beforehand what to do with life, then this would become a perfect world, but it isn’t.

The fact that losers are so commonplace in modern society means the very failure of those life-guiding books: they are too good to be true and too promising for the most people to achieve. The book titled the Origin of Losers will answer one simple question: what to do after you mess up your life or someone messes it up for you. In order words, how to find the peace of mind in this imperfect world.

Remedies such as giving oneself to religion, finding consolation in Karma, taking drugs, resorting to extreme measures or coming back with elevated physical or spiritual strength are possible solutions, but is there one simple and powerful solution? Or we need to carry an arsenal of solutions for all sorts of thorns and headaches of our life?

I will leave the answer to my future self if I start to write this book. Or if you know any books which already have the answer, tell me. 


Find the weakest link in the endeavor

Even you rack your brains out, you simply cannot take every aspect of an endeavor into consideration. The successful outcome of your adventure usually does not depend on how comprehensively and thoroughly you have made you plan, but rather on how you are prepared for the unexpected in your journey.

Enough of this abstract gibberish. I will make my point clear with a real life example:

I had carefully studied the procedures and requirements for mailing milk powder from USA to China. As you know, China’s milk products are literally undrinkable or even poisonous. I have checked the mailing cost, called the postal office in China for the weight limit, selected the most optimal combination of milk products and weight, then I ordered them.

My expectation was that the milk powder will arrive smoothly since I have really done my homework. However, I forgot to reckon the weakest link in this plan: the people. It turned out the person who is responsible for sending me the milk powder did not take this matter seriously and did not even bother to go to the post office to mail it. After dropping it in a convenient mailing facility, the person reported an exorbitant mailing cost and I was left with no choice but to pay it.

I thought it would work as I had expected but it didn’t. I did my homework but failed to study and observe people carefully. This failure is a result of the weakest link which happen to be a human factor, and other non-human factors do occur no matter how keenly you heart is willing and how actively your mind is working.

The moral is after making a plan and conducted solid research of it, try to view it from a distance and detect its weakest link as an keen observer. Once the weakest link is detected, make sure you are prepared for them when the link does break.

However, no one can be fully prepared. When you think you are ready or you have to do it, take the plunge, be ready for the difficulties and challenges, and most of all hope for the best. After all, if it is worth doing, then you got to do it with all your heart. If you are scared, remember: the mighty forces will come to your aid.